Before we understand how co-parents in conflict communicate, we need to appreciate that communication is not just about the words we use.

Types of non-verbal conversation

Think about…
Think about non-verbal communication within conflict situations and the messages you send by:
Proxemics
- Getting in someone’s personal space (aggressive?)
- Walking away (you don’t care?)
Haptics
- Avoiding touch, physically recoiling (disgust?)
Vocalics
- Voice tone, volume, pitch, speed (Is there a list of complaints? Is it that bad?)
Chronemics
- The time you take talking. Is it too long? (a lecture?)
- Are you giving the other person enough time to speak?
- Are you listening? (Do you care about their opinion?)
Kinesics
- How you are presenting yourself: rolling eyes, grimacing, red in the face, gritting teeth (angry?), folding arms (closed?), sighing (bored), turning away (not bothered?), ‘becoming busy’.
- Are you looking at the other person as they speak? (not looking = not interested/stonewalling?)
- Are you sitting or moving around?
- Are you looking at your phone, cooking, on your laptop? (not interested in resolving the situation?)