{"id":747,"date":"2021-04-05T16:42:47","date_gmt":"2021-04-05T16:42:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/?page_id=747"},"modified":"2021-07-08T12:55:28","modified_gmt":"2021-07-08T12:55:28","slug":"resolving-conflict","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/resolving-conflict","title":{"rendered":"Resolving conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Active repair: destructive or constructive conversations<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-color\" style=\"color:#4ba584;font-size:24px\"><strong>Destructive examples<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-list\"><li>Interrupting to get your point of view across<\/li><li>Using examples from the past to prove you\u2019re right<\/li><li>Pointing out your partner\u2019s flaws<\/li><li>Using insults to make your point<\/li><li>Telling your co-parent what they should or shouldn\u2019t do<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-color\" style=\"color:#4ba584;font-size:24px\"><strong>Constructive examples<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-list\"><li>Listening<\/li><li>Explaining your own feelings and accepting that your co-parent has different feelings<\/li><li>Offering solutions to a problem but being willing to compromise<\/li><li>Supporting each other to feel heard and respected<\/li><li>Using \u2018I\u2019 or \u2018we\u2019 statements instead of \u2018you\u2019 statements<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:24px\"><strong>For example&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-media-text alignwide is-stacked-on-mobile\" style=\"grid-template-columns:27% auto\"><figure class=\"wp-block-media-text__media\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/square-insert-11-1024x1024.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-863 size-full\" srcset=\"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/square-insert-11-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/square-insert-11-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/square-insert-11-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/square-insert-11-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/square-insert-11-1536x1536.png 1536w, https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/square-insert-11-225x225.png 225w, https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/square-insert-11.png 2000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><div class=\"wp-block-media-text__content\">\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\"><em>\u2018You are always late!\u2019 \u2018You never listen!\u2019 <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">Instead use \u2018I\u2019 or \u2018we\u2019 statements, so instead, <em>\u2018When you are late, I feel really overwhelmed doing everything by myself. Can we talk about this?\u2019<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">By using \u2018I\u2019 statements, we are explaining how we feel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\">By using \u2018we\u2019 statements, we are acknowledging that there is a need for negotiation, compromise and agreement or acceptance to move forward for both parties.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-layout-flex wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button has-custom-width wp-block-button__width-100\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-cyan-bluish-gray-background-color has-background\" href=\"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/7-resolving-conflict\">Return to previous page<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-button has-custom-width wp-block-button__width-100\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-vivid-cyan-blue-background-color has-background\" href=\"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/8-difficult-conversations-about-conflict\">Go to next topic<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Active repair: destructive or constructive conversations Destructive examples Interrupting to get your point of view across Using examples from the past to prove you\u2019re right Pointing out your partner\u2019s flaws Using insults to make your point Telling your co-parent what they should or shouldn\u2019t do Constructive examples Listening Explaining your own feelings and accepting that [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-747","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/747","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=747"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/747\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1307,"href":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/747\/revisions\/1307"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/raceequalityfoundation.org.uk\/parentalconflict\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=747"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}